Hope you all are doing good..
Am back with a new rambling.. Its been too long.. *wink*
Today I want to go on and on about the various special days we seem to celebrate like Mother’s Day, Father’s Day, Valentine’s Day, Earth Day etc etc.. It seems every year a couple of new days are being introduced or maybe that is the case on my side of the world and they already exist in the west for way long ago (by west I mean U.S, U.K etc)..
Now why in the world is that???!!!!!!!??? What is wrong with us??
Why am I going on about this simple celebration day??
Well I think it’s just wrong that we chose a specific day for every relationship or feeling. Why do we need to bound ourselves to a specific day to tell our feelings of how much we love someone or care for someone?? Just because someone ages ago did due to some sad event in their lives??
For example Mother’s Day came into being when Anna Jarvis held a ‘memorial’ for her mother and wanted it to be a recognized holiday.. Well she got her wish but did she like the fact of how it is commercialized by the media?? Not only that, she also wished this to be specific Mother’s (notice the spelling) day that is singular, meaning just your mother’s day not mothers all over the world.. But what happens?? Various countries have adopted it for their own commercial reasons with their own interpretations.. Does it keep the original idea or values?? NO..
Then again, Fathers’ Day came into being when a Mrs. Grace Golden Clayton decided to celebrate life of the fathers who were lost in ‘Monongah Mining Disaster‘. Again, it was due to a sad event and this time the lady wanted it to be collective Fathers’ Day not singular like Mother’s. The same way like before, this is now also a widely commercialized day, interpreted differently by every country.
What about the most famous, Valentine’s Day?? Do you know, there are no historical facts connecting Saint Valentine to romance?? Instead christian martyrs were known as Valentines.. Somehow, somewhere in history, someone related Saint Valentine to romance and started the celebrations of declaration of love day.. So technically we are celebrating martyrs days where we declare love for each other..
From the likes of this, if someone comes up with new innovative concept and markets properly, it seems there will come a time that we will be celebrating a death day and mourning day too.. Or even select specific days in a month for us to laugh, cry, have fun etc..
Someone once told me that the reason so many days are being celebrated is that the life has become very fast paced nowadays and families are being driven further apart.. Parents, children and siblings hardly have time to connect or talk to each other for months at a time.. The concept of children living with parents is gone from the west and slowly being finished in other parts of the world too.. Old parents are either living alone or sent to retirement homes.. So these people need a day they can ‘try‘ (emphasis on this word) to make up for the rest of the year’s neglect and ignorance and of course take out time to express ‘loveeeeee‘ (sarcasm intended).. Seems to be true to me.. The media of course has a field day exploiting this and making chunks of money.. What more do they want??
I sometimes wonder what will happen if one day every one decides not to specifically celebrate this day and ignore the media hiatus but do it randomly throughout the year.. What will the media come up with next to convince us?? Of course special deals and discount make it difficult to make this decision..
One thing I love about my country, my people and my society is the closeness.. Everyone has bitchy days (who doesn’t) and everyone fights.. But we all care too.. There is rarely any daughter who does not talk to her parents at least once a week if not every day (meet too if they are in the same city) or son who does not want to live with his parents and support them unless absolutely necessary.. Not that I am happy all the time living with in-laws.. There are loads of issues but then what comes to mind is.. They also kept us, raised us and supported us whether they wanted to or not.. Sadly though, I am now seeing this disappearing too mostly inspired by the shows on television..
I for one cannot spend the day without talking with my mom even if it is for a minute.. I go nuts and miss her like crazy when we don’t.. Go ahead.. Call me mama’s baby.. *wink* I love her, my dad, my siblings, my hubby a lot and tell them in small ways whenever I can.. I don’t need these things to prove to the world I love them by keeping statuses on social networks, sending gifts publicly or saying it loudly in front of everyone.. They know I love them, I know they love me in the little things they do.. That is enough for me.. 🙂
Now by all this rambling I do not in any way want to offend you people and I know its not necessary that people on the other side of the world are like this or that we, ourselves are so lovey dovey that we are one big family (like shown on some shows).. But what do you guys think?? Am I really wrong in my thinking and observation?? Are we being exploited by the media and the governments or what??
Though the truth is, I, myself am vulnerable to the television and advertisements.. It takes a lot of will power not to be tempted to have those things the way they show it but it totally proves our susceptibility to such things being open to exploitation.
I do not think any religion anywhere in the world says that you only show love on one specific day or not keep your parents with you when they are old and unable to help themselves no matter how busy you are.. In fact every religion, one way or another says do as much as you can for your parents in their old age and you will be rewarded (so why not for this greed if nothing else?).
Think about it and let me know.. More, correct me if I am wrong but with examples.. *wink*
*whoosh* Am tired after this rambling..
See you around..
Have a thinking day.. ^_^